Private Conversations with Jesus about Love...

❓QUESTION:

Dear lee, help me explain to my husband what unconditional love is. I know that there is a lot of information from you on this topic, but I cannot explain it to my husband the way you can! To my explanations that loving unconditionally does not mean possessing, but means loving as is, he says that you don't love a passerby, you don't know him, but you live with me for some of my qualities and so it is in everything, we always love for something and in some way he is right. My personality does not love the neighbors, they cause inconvenience, although I understand that we are parts of one consciousness and they, and I am part of everything, but these neighbors cause inconvenience to many others… I understand that self-love is, first of all, self-acceptance and NOT suffering, but a conscious attitude towards what is happening, perhaps unconditional love is self-love…

❗️ANSWER lee:

Yes, it begins with Love for oneself without conditions. This means that there are no conditions, by fulfilling which you love yourself, and non-fulfillment creates guilt.

To love without conditions is not to set conditions for YOUR feelings towards someone. Whatever another person does, your FEELINGS are stable.

In practice – living without judgment, “judge not…”, as Jesus said. In his private conversations, by the way, this was the basis for explaining the essence of Love.

Neither yourself nor another – do not judge.

This is not the same as “having sex with every stranger,” not the same as “justifying the actions of others.” Also, it does not deny the possibility of feeling attraction (for example, sexual) to one person and not being interested in another at all.

Living without judgment roughly means – “look at your reflections in others and make a choice of what you like, and do not attach your attention to what you do not like.” In this case, the negative behavior of a neighbor is not a reason for you to carry negative emotions within yourself. You recognize the presence of an “ego filter” in him, which creates his world in exactly that way. And in yourself, you recognize the frequencies (beliefs, thoughts) that led you to come into contact with an undesirable experience.

If there is judgment, then the mind will look for reasons in the neighbor. If there is Love, then you will see the reasons in yourself.

At the same time, “reasons in yourself” is not a reason to judge yourself, but a reason to change thoughts-beliefs. Love helps you change in such a way as to observe exclusively joyful events. And this is possible only if judgments like “this one is bad, and that one is good” are left behind, which leave YOU WITH EMOTIONS from someone's behavior.

Thus, Love serves you specifically – totally!